The New Year.
I start this year très gay with a chapter about sex at the baths on the computer and Phantom of the Opera on the TV in the background. 2013 was a great year for my health; I celebrated thirty-five years living with HIV and great for all of us with the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision on June 26 to strike down a portion of the Defense of Marriage and refusing to hear the lower court’s decision that California’s marriage ban was unconstitutional. It was bad year for minorities with the same court throwing out laws that protect access to voting in states with a history of discrimination. And bad for many most of us with the gap between the rich and poor increasing made even worse for the poorest when Republican cut unemployment benefits and food stamps that had me looking back with sadness at my years in graduate school when I worked with the Model Cities program in Philadelphia and believed we could eliminate poverty.
In many ways I have everything: a new car, a wonderful second home, valuable real estate in San Francisco and devoted dogs. But what good is the real estate if I don’t have someone to share it with?
In 2014 my separation from my partner becomes official, and I expect to complete a polished draft of the novel and to make it through the year alive with regular gym visits, a stationary bicycle and a lot of fish for dinner. 2014 will be another year of writing and weekly dates with my secret lover. Yes, Virginia, some secret affairs last.
I’ll continue to work with Lambda Literary to assure that our literature and culture are being written and preserved. We’ve won most of our civil rights battle, and my fear is we’ll slip into middle class mediocrity. We are unique is so many ways, if we don’t keep our culture vigorous it will fade. I can imagine a world without Will and Grace but not one without icons like Jim Hormel, Dan Savage and Ian McKellen or poets like Mark Doty and writers like Augusten Burroughs.
My hearty best wishes to all for a fun-filled love-filled year and evenings (or afternoons) of hot sex.