About Me


I come from Wisconsin,  went to college in New Hampshire and graduate school in Philadelphia and then spent two years in the Peace Corp in Chile.  I later got an MFA in poetry. I was married and have a son who is an artist  and a granddaughter who is a college sophomore. Michael A. Schoch and I were deeply in love for eighteen years until he succumbed to AIDS.

I had the good fortune of coming out in San Francisco in 1972, perhaps the most magical era in the life of our community.  I went from button down to weekend hippie in seconds and have lived with HIV since 1978.

I’ve been active in the community, first on the board and then chairman of the board of the Human Rights Campaign Fund, now the Human Right Campaign. I also led an effort that raised $3.2 million for the gay and lesbian center in San Francisco’s Main Library.

I am the author of Do You Live Around Here? a memoir, a poem of mine appeared in ZYYZZYVA, and I am currently working on a novel.

I’ve lived in an Edwardian in Alamo Square for  thirty years  I have a second home in Sebastopol and I live in both with two standard poodles. I drive an Audi.