DEMOCRATS

The Democratic Party traditionally has been the party of the people.  While many of its most famous Presidents like Roosevelt and Kennedy were wealthy the party has championed workers, unions and the disenfranchised like us queers.  They have also been the party that tries to have something for everyone, and that’s muddled their message and […]

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Pride

It’s that time of year again when the community marches and has picnics to celebrate our gayness.  I remember the first Pride Parade in San Francisco when I was still married.  What impressed me was the humor, the ability of the community to fight bigotry with self deprecating laughter.  If they weren’t going to take […]

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WE WERE HERE, a David Weissman documentary

WE WERE HERE,  a David Weissman documentary This afternoon I saw a special screening of this film about my generation in my city as we dealt with AIDS.  I saw friends Daniel Goldstein and Paul Boneberg, and I saw men I’d had sex with and men I saw everyday. Watching it I remembered the fear […]

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REPUBLICANS

I was raised a Republican and believed my father, a former FBI agent, when he told me Communists were a threat to our way of life and I remember arguing with my friend David Schilling when I was eight insisting Joe McCarthy was a better candidate than a guy named Fairchild a Democrat. After my […]

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the oil spill

Every day we learn more frightening facts about the oil gushing from the Deepwater Horizon well.  Every day there is another untested solution and every day there are reports of  it failing.  BP admits it has not prepared for such a catastrophe and is using antiquated measures like booms and dispersants that aren’t solving the […]

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thirty years of HIV

I’ve lived with HIV six times longer than I was married and almost twice as long as my partnership with Michael A. Schoch.  I’ve been positive more than half of my life as an out gay man.  They don’t give medals for doing that.  You get to eat and breathe, clear skin and more blood […]

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being alive and death

Aging takes various forms at various times in our lives. It means a loss of beauty, fewer dates, muscles tiring more easily, and lines forming around the eyes. For some it’s a time of loneliness, a period when it’s hard to make friends, but as gay men we don’t have to subscribe to that kind […]

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a good date

A good date is one where you can trust each other.  If you’re just sucking dick at the bookstore that’s not important. If he’s coming to your apartment is is, sotalk or chat online in advance and don’t be shy about talking about sex. If he shows up on time or phones to say he’ll […]

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internet dating

Why do some men my age say it’s harder to find boys to fuck on the Internet?  Guys, you are twenty years older. This is not the good old days.  Technology has changed and so have our bodies.  If you used the Internet you’d find a website for older men with younger men looking for older men.  […]

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street fairs

We had no street fairs in my hometown in Wisconsin just church rummage sales. My first was the Grant Avenue Street Fair in North Beach in 1973 jammed with people of all ages enjoying espresso and pastries in tie-dyed clothing. It was a world unlike any I’d known with men in leather pants and women […]

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